Marital money bliss: What to lock down before tying the knot

Getting married isn’t all about planning the wedding. It’s also about planning for a happy, healthy financial future. Here’s where to start.

As you're planning your wedding, take time to plan your financial future as well. Discussing your finances and goals with your partner can help you build a happier, more fulfilling life together.

The old saying about marriage is true when it comes to money too: good communication is key. 

Six topics to start your discussion

1. Attitudes toward money

Some people see savings accounts as security blankets; others see them as ways to pay for trips to Tahiti. If you and your partner view money differently, make sure your financial plans respect both of your financial needs and preferences.

2. Contingency plans

What happens if life takes an unexpected turn? You and your partner should have plans in place for scenarios such as:

  • One of you losing a job, or wanting to go back to school
  • One of you wanting to leave his or her job to spend more time with family
  • One of you wanting to take a job in another location
  • One of you losing your ability to work and earn an income due to a disability

3. Level of debt

Have an honest discussion about your debts. "Marrying someone with excessive debt can have serious repercussions," says financial advisor Harry James of Lockton Financial Advisors based in Kansas City, MO.

James notes that a partner's credit issues may make it more difficult to qualify for a mortgage or other loan. It can also prevent you from contributing the necessary amounts to your savings and retirement accounts.

If debt is an issue, make it a priority to pay your bills, starting with the ones that charge the highest interest.

4. Joint or separate accounts

Some couples merge their finances completely when they marry, while others prefer to keep them separate. If you plan to maintain your own accounts, consider the following approaches:

  • Open a joint checking account to cover shared costs, with each person depositing a fixed amount each month.
  • Split bill-paying responsibility based on each partner's income.

5. Realistic budgets

Excessive spending can wreak financial and emotional havoc on a marriage. Avoid this problem by creating a monthly spending plan and updating it regularly. A smart budget should:

  • Help you save for retirement by paying yourself first
  • Include short- and long-term goals
  • Allocate funds for housing, transportation, debt repayment, and miscellaneous items in amounts that are agreeable to both of you
  • Allow each of you some independent spending

6. Estate planning

Now is the time to decide how your assets would be distributed, should something happen to you or your partner. Take the following steps:

  • Review the beneficiary designations of all your accounts, including 401(k) plans.
  • Create a will if you don't have one. If you do, update it.
  • Review how much each of you depends on the other's income, and consider purchasing life insurance that could replace that amount.


These discussions aren't just about money—they're about making the most of your life together.

Need to review beneficiaries?

If you recently had a change in your life, it's a good idea to review and update your beneficiary information.